The power of slow

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The power of slow

I came across the saying above ‘One slow thing at a time is a powerful way to live’.  That saying has stuck with me for years and I find that it really helps me when I feel I have too much to do and I feel overwhelmed.  I just tell myself OK Tom just do one thing and do it slowly.   No pressure at all.  The sense of being torn between different things fades away and I get into doing one thing.  Also the sense of pressuring myself to do something quickly fades away.  I have given myself permission to do one thing and do it slowly.

Benefits of slow

Slow takes away the pressure my monkey mind is putting me under.  I have to get this, this and this done today.  Saying one slow thing at a time gives me permission to take my time and relax and do one thing and focus on it and enjoy it.  I become more present in the moment.  It is paradoxical because I find that telling myself do one slow thing at a time actually helps me get more done!  Multi-tasking is a myth.  What multi-tasking really means is rapidly switching between tasks.  Multi-tasking is really switch-tasking.  Every time we switch tasks there is a stop/start process that goes on in the brain and this stop starting process is energy sapping.  I feel that this is certainly true in my own case and I prefer to focus on only one task at a time.

Beating procrastination

I also find that telling myself to do one slow thing at a time helps me beat putting things off.  There is no need to procrastinate because I have given myself permission to do one thing slowly.  I think this reduces the energy barrier to starting something new because you have given yourself permission to do it slowly.

In summary

Doing one slow thing at a time is a powerful way to live.  The next time you are feeling overwhelmed or are procrastinating just pick one thing and give yourself permission to do it slowly.  Enjoy the slowness of it and watch yourself get more done.  Let the power of slow work in your life!

Best wishes,

Tom

Smarter Decision Making

I am reading a book at the moment by a professional poker player, Annie Duke.  The title of the book is “Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don’t Have All the Facts.”  I must say it is a very interesting read.  Annie was studying for a PhD in cogitative science at the University of Pennsylvanian when she ended up trying her hand at poker and making a career out of it.  She went on to win many poker competitions and millions of dollars from a 20 year career in poker.  Poker players have to make good decisions under pressure in a short amount of time or go broke – who better to learn decision making from than a champion poker player!

Game theory

It turns out that game theory developed initially by a man called John von Neumanns is based on poker.  Making decisions in the real world is similar to making decisions in poker in that there are so many unknown variables.  Chess is a different type of game in that in any chess situation there is a best move.  Chess is more mathematical and certain in that if you lose a game you can trace your loss back to a certain move or series of moves.

Motivated reasoning

When it comes to decision making we live in a really uncertain and ambiguous world but we like to think of ourselves as great decision makers.   When things go well we tell ourselves that we are great decision makers (or great poker players!) and when things go badly we tell ourselves that it was just bad luck.  We have a cognitive bias in that we tend to pay a lot of attention to confirming evidence (we have a great strategy and are great decision makers)  and work to discredit dis-confirming evidence (that we might have a bad strategy or have made poor decisions).  In other words we are not the objective, rational creatures we like to think we are!  When people form and cling to false beliefs, even despite overwhelming evidence, the phenomenon is labeled “motivated reasoning”.

When I drop my teenage son to the bus if the bus arrives just as I drop him he says “perfect timing” – a great result as he does not have to wait around.  This reinforces his belief that he is a great planner and does not waste time.  If he misses the bus then it was just bad luck and was not his fault.  No need therefore to examine the underlying flawed strategy of leaving for the bus at the last minute!

Summary

In summary none of us like to be wrong.  Our brains are built to seek confirming evidence that we are right and it is uncomfortable to dig deeper and consider the fact that our underlying strategy may be wrong.  After all changing one’s mind and changing one’s lifestyle or strategy is hard work and we prefer to ignore something which does not fit into our view of the world.  Awareness of this cognitive bias is an important step towards making better decisions and being a better poker player!

Best wishes,

Tom

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