Monthly Archives: August 2018

Let go & free yourself!

Catching monkeys who never let go

Letting go

Let me tell you a story about catching monkeys.  The story goes something like this.   A hunter puts some of the monkey’s favorite food such as a cherry in a jar with a narrow neck.  The hunter securely ties the jar to a wooden stake using a rope.  The neck of the jar is just wide enough for the monkey’s hand to squeeze into the jar though the narrow neck.  The monkey puts in his hand and grasps the cherry inside the jar.  Then the monkey goes to withdraw his hand but his fist holding the cherry will not pass through the narrow neck of the jar.  The monkey becomes trapped because he is not willing to let go of the prized cherry and escape.  The monkey is trapped by holding on to the cherry.

The lesson from the story is that holding on to stuff, even appealing stuff, can trap us and hold us back.

Reflection

What cherry are you holding on to that no longer serves you? What do you need to let go of that is trapping you?  Perhaps it is a job, career, hobby, relationship, self-perception, addiction or habit?  Like the monkey you need to be able to let go of the cherry to be free.  Letting go and reinventing yourself is a very important skill in today’s rapidly changing world.  If we are unable to let go of the cherry, then like the monkey, we risk being trapped which leads to stagnation in our lives.

Best wishes,

Tom

PS. For more great ideas on personal development check out Transform Your Life – Experiments on Personal Change 

The Eisenhower Decision Matrix

The Eisenhower Decision Matrix (below) is a great tool to use to help decide on and prioritize tasks by importance and urgency. It helps us consider which of our activities are important and which are distractions.

Eisenhower Decision Matrix
The Eisenhower Decision Matrix – Keep focussed on taking important actions!
Journaling

I have kept an electronic journal since the year 2010.  It is part of my morning routine each day to write my reflections in my journal.  As part of my daily journal routine I time travel back to see what I was doing on this date last year.  Then I look at the year before and travel all the way back to 2010.  I am building up a data set on my own life!  What I have learned is that our memories are a poor way to record what is happening in our lives.  In time our memories become fuzzy and we can completely forget what happened.

One of the things that I have learned by looking backward in my diary is just how much time I have spent working on things which turned out not to be very important.  What I realise now is that I need to spend more time vetting what I am doing.  I need to make sure that my time is spent doing what is important.  Some things are just a waste of time.  If I had reflected more on this then I would have saved myself so much time and effort which ended up being wasted.

Eisenhower Decision Matrix

Through experience I have realised just how important the Eisenhower Decision Matrix really is.  Are you already familiar with this matrix?  Right now I am working through my projects and tasks and categorising them according to the matrix.  Most importantly before taking on new activities and projects I need to evaluate them according to the matrix and learn to say NO more often.  Otherwise our lives can just be a busy trap where we actually achieve nothing of importance.  This document (written for Life Coaches) explains more about the Eisenhower Decision Matrix (Thanks to Kain Ramsay, Strategic Life Coaching  for his permission to share this).

Best wishes,

Tom